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National Compliment Your Mirror Day

What is it??

July 3rd was National Compliment Your Mirror Day. It is a day to celebrate who we are as a person, beyond outer appearances. Our self-worth, our quirks, our personalities, our contributions to the people around us, our approach to the world: that is what this day is about.Screen Shot 2019-07-08 at 10.52.03

This can be especially difficult following an experience with domestic violence or sexual assault. It is not uncommon for individuals to experience depression, anxiety, and/or low self-esteem following domestic violence or sexual assault.

Some ways to recover emotionally following abuse:

Remember that it was not your fault. No one asks to be abused or assaulted. Any actions you took helped you to survive, so they were the right actions. The actions and choices of another person do not define who you are, and you are more than your past.

Everyone has different ways of coping, so what works for one person may not be very helpful for another. It is important to find what works for you, and to not assume that you are unable to heal because one path didn’t work for you.

Talk to someone. It can be a family member, a friend, a crisis line, or a professional. You can even start with a pet or inanimate object. Just speaking out loud can help you sort through various

you-got-thisPositive affirmations: Many people are used to thinking critical statements about ourselves. Although it can be difficult, try to rethink this self-talk to have a more positive spin. Once you think of a positive affirmation, repeat it, then repeat it again. “Progress, not perfection,” “I am always doing the best that I can,” or “I am very capable of changing my own behavior, but I can ONLY change MY behavior,” are great starting points. Initially you might think it is silly or weird to repeat these statements to yourself, but hearing—or even just thinking—these statements several times assists in changing your view of yourself. By repeating these statements, you will begin to believe them more and more, shifting your mindset towards yourself to a more positive and realistic view. You can use National Compliment Your Mirror Day as a starting point for this practice, and work it into your routine.

Reminding yourself that you are worthy. Whether it is love, attention, compassion, power of your own body, help, or anything else, you are worthy.

If you need help in your healing journey, Tri-Valley Haven offers free counseling services, both personal counseling and group therapy with a focus on either domestic violence or sexual assault. Our crisis line is always open if you need to talk to someone immediately.

References:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5440441/

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/ptsd-trauma/recovering-from-rape-and-sexual-trauma.htm

https://www.secasa.com.au/pages/feelings-after-sexual-assault/

https://socialsciences.exeter.ac.uk/media/universityofexeter/collegeofsocialsciencesandinternationalstudies/research/interventioninitiative/resources/SARSASSelfHelpGuideOct2014.pdf

 


Emily is a Preventionist and Sexual Assault Advocate at Tri-Valley Haven.  For more information about how to access or support our life-saving services for survivors and families, please call our office at (925) 449-5845 or visit http://www.trivalleyhaven.org

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